Freedom In The West. Story by Andrew Davison.
1. Min Sook. Oh what a month I’ve had Kate. My parents want me to do
this; my friends also want me to do stuff; my boss expects
me to go on unpaid special training trips. My boyfriend’s
parents think that I shouldn’t work once I get married,
but
stay cooped up in an apartment raising kids.
2. Kate. Wow, you are the centre of attention aren’t you! You
certainly shouldn’t get bored having so much attention!
3. Min Sook. Bored no, but crazy yes! I’ve decided to go back to the
States and get a job there and live a normal life where I
don’t
have to constantly listen to this and that advice from
everybody that I know.
4. Kate. That’s right, now I remember you did your Uni studies in the
States didn’t you?
5. Min Sook. Yes and after I finished my course at university I worked in
New York for a while. Actually I spent two years there and
had three different jobs. I had a lot of fun working and
socializing with staff at the places where I worked.
6. Kate. I suppose your parents put you through university and
covered your living expenses while you studied.
7. Min Sook. Of course my parents supported me through university.
8. Kate. Oh, I see “of course your parents supported you”! Well most
of my friends at university had to pay their own way
through
university as well as myself.
9. Min Sook. Why didn’t your parents pay for you?
10. Kate. My friends and I are what you call independent. As soon as
we had finished high school we left home and found jobs
and usually shared houses or apartments with other young
people around our own age.
11. Min Sook. Cool, did you get a boyfriend when you moved away from
home?
12. Kate. Yes, but don’t remind me about him. He was a playboy and
contracted Gonorrhea from playing around and passed it on
to me. (Gonorrhea = a venereal disease transmitted by sex)
13. Min Sook. Oh no that’s terrible. It can cause a lot of trouble if it isn’t
treated quickly, can’t it?
(Gonorrhea can cause loss of fertility and other problems)
14. Kate. I was lucky, one of my girlfriends that worked in a medical
clinic told me that my boyfriend had been named as a
contact by a girl that was being treated for Gonorrhea at
the clinic where she worked.
(a contact here means someone that a girl or boy has slept
with)
15. Min Sook. Gee you were lucky to find out quickly! Here in Japan nearly
half of the girls have had sex before they’ve finished
high
school nowadays and about 31% of teens have had
Chlamydia at some stage in their teen years.
16. Kate. Gee that many! Chlamydia is a bacterial disease just like
Gonorrhea but only a little less dangerous!
17. Min Sook. Yes I know! My elder sister caught it but didn’t realize she
had it until she got complications. She caught
Perihepatitus
a liver infection, a common secondary infection. My sister
’s
doctor told my sister that she mightn’t be able to have
babies now. You can imagine how my sister is feeling!
18. Kate. Terrible I’d reckon! That boyfriend that infected me with
Gonorrhea, kept sleeping around after I left him and ended
up becoming HIV positive and later died of Aids. Imagine
what would have happened if I had kept him as a boyfriend.
19. Min Sook. No thanks I’d rather not imagine. Well I’m safe as I’m still a
virgin and I’m intending to stay that way until I get
married.
20. Kate. That’s the safest way! After my first boyfriend I learned
to take precautions. I made my second boyfriend that I’m
still living with, get tested for venereal diseases by my
own
private doctor before I slept with him. I told him that if
I ever
hear that he’s been near another girl that it would be
the end
of our relationship. He also knows that I have regular six
monthly VD check ups at a clinic. It’s getting common
these days for young people to get their future marriage
partner to have a complete VD examination before they will
go ahead and get married.
21. Min Sook. Well I’m going to insist on examinations before I get married.
22. Kate. That’s smart! Oh, what I meant to tell you before is that
without family and long term friends, life in the States
can
often be lonely. Many young people these days start taking
drugs to relieve the emptiness of their lives since they
have
moved away from their parents and home town friends. It
seems that freedom isn’t all that great in reality.
23. Min Sook. I suppose I already know that but I just wish people would
suggest things instead of trying to force me into what
they
see as right for me all the time!
24. Kate. Yeah I know what you mean but you either have friends who
want to help you or you get modern day friends who are
only
interested in using you up, for what they can get out of
you! I
think it’s better to have real friends that try to help
you
instead of the others that try to use you, don’t you?
25. Min Sook. I suppose so!